Saw a familiar photo of a little girl today with the caption saying “RIP to the girl who made us smile”. Clicking on it, I realised that I’ve seen her in “who’s your favourite” clip on Youtube. Turns out she lost her life from two strands of the common cold. Seeing sad news like this really reminds me of how fragile life can be.
It still doesn’t seem that long ago when my mum left the world due to cancer but it’s nearly been 6 years, time really does fly. As humans, the reality is that time will eventually mend emotional wounds so we tend to hide our emotions convincing ourselves that it is the best way to heal. But as a result of that, would it not cause us to forget the fragility of life?
During the first few months after my mum’s passing, I remember going through a massive stage of denial. During this time, I suppressed my sadness as much as I could. In looking back, it not only did not stop my sadness but I felt worse as I kept everything bottled inside. Does it really make it better if we forget? My sister once wrote that she did not want to forget and it really got me thinking. At the end of the day, I want to be able to look back and be grateful of all the times I’ve shared with my mum. I don’t want to forget at all which is why these days, I’ve been more accepting of my emotions instead of bottling them. In hearing sad news like Maddie’s, I mourn and send condolences but at the same time, I remember. A few songs I hear always makes me choke up a little:
張衛健 – 身體健康: This is a Cantonese song. It translates to “Good Health”. The person singing the song says how much he wants good health so his love one doesn’t need to look after him/worry about him etc.
Mike & the Mechanics – The Living Years.
Beyond – 真的愛妳: Another Cantonese song. It translates to “Really Love you”. The person singing the song says how much he wants to say I love you to his parents for their love and advice for him.
Every now and then, news like the RIP Maddie and songs come along and really remind me that not only does time fly but life is fragile. We shouldn’t be afraid of sad emotions but instead use these moments as a reminder for us to treasure things in your living life and to remember/cherish those that have gone.
Are there any songs that put a tear in your eye but at the same time a smile on your face? If so, do leave a comment, would love to hear from you.